there are very few people who are good at waiting. patience isnt a quality thats commonly found, especially in todays world things are so fast. traffic, slow Internet, people strolling down a sidewalk can put a city walker into a rage! waiting for your food at a restaurant or for a package to come in the mail is almost anxiety inducing to some......can you imagine waiting for a new organ??

ive never been a patient person, i drive too fast when i have nowhere to go. im not in a rush to get groceries but i speed down higgins like my life will end if im stuck behind that prius for one more second. i dont know why im in such a rush. when my facebook doesnt load fast enough or my food takes too long to cook its awful to me, and ive spent the last year of my life waiting for my phone to ring telling me that there is a pair of lungs waiting for me. waiting for someone to tell me my life will never be the same because i will live longer and have a more fulfilling life.

however ive just received news im too sick at the moment to receive this call. i was put on hold until my meds are lowered and my multiple infections are under control. this is a crushing blow for an inpatient patient.

when you cant work or go to school theres not a lot to do with your day. i spend a lot of time sitting in different spots around the house, reading, watching bad tv, watching good tv when luck has it, waiting for friends who have real lives to get off of work and hope they have a free night to hang out. ive began going ot church more for the community and social interactions and structure than the religion, looking for classes that dont cost and arm and a leg that i can take to get me out of the house.

im waiting and thats all i can do. i cant make my lungs or my other organs cooperate like id like them too all i can do is hope for the best and its beyond a doubt the most difficult thing ive ever had to do. knowing now that i dont even have hope for that call to come in (at least not right now, ill get back on that list im very determined to do so and these are just infections, they can be treated!) its even harder. it drags the wait on and it prolongs the anxiety.

i admire the people currtently waiting and the ones who have gone through the wait. this is no easy task and those who have to experience it have strength in them like nothing else. ill be here hoping for the best, but a little crushed at the moment.

Orkambi and Health Update

The last time i was at transplant clinic i talked to my doctor about how well my lungs were doing without the bronchial valves i had to fix my recent lung collapse and we agreed that if i can get my lung function over 30% then i can go on a hold from the transplant list. Well my next appointment is in March but 3 days ago at my regular clinic I blew a 31%!!! (i only got above 30 for one out of 3 but it still counts!!) I am beyond excited with my progress! From breathing with one lung to possibly going on hold, from about 105lbs to 124lbs, im kicking ass left and right!!

Blowing away the docs!!! (pun intended!)

Except for the past few days....Ive officially begun taking Orkambi. The newest drug to come out for CF. While all the studies were done with people over 40% lung function, some with lower numbers have still seen results. People warned me the side effects were brutal in the first few weeks and they werent kidding. Sweats, chest tightness, shortness of breath, body aches, coughing up an amount of mucus that i didnt even know could exist in a single body, no sleep, and lower effectiveness with my anti anxiety, anti depressants, and sleep meds. Luckily i felt only half as bad as day 2 so im pretty confident i lucked out on the side effects front!!! For a shot at even healthier lungs i can handle this but i am scheduling an admission in the next week for a tune up. I havent been feeling the best and i wanna catch it while its early so it doesnt turn into anything more serious.

Feeling Orkambi at its worst!

All in all im doing really well thanks to a new diet, lots of exercise and workouts, and being on top of my meds and airway clearance every day. After the side effects wear down and im done with iv's theres no telling what my numbers will be, but im pretty confident in this new med and myself and when March rolls around ill be ready!

What nobody told me about transplant

"She never complained, always had a smile on her face and was positive up till the very end!"

This is a line that ive read over and over, ive read that no matter what happened there was not a single complaint, not a single moment where they didnt give up hope, and that through all the pain they smiled. Well guess what, im calling it. Im calling bullshit. Its easy to look at a facebook and see a snapshot of someones life and someones struggle and see the inspirational side of their fight and its a whole nother story to be the one fighting. For a while i felt like i wasn't as strong as everyone else and i felt like maybe i had given up and i just couldn't do it. I smiled for company and laughed with my nurses and when everyone left i cried, and i panicked, and i wished so hard that i could be the girl who stood strong and knew without a doubt that she was gonna kick ass and this would all be worth it. People like to be inspired, they like a story where the fighter comes out on top but its not always realistic. Prolonged hospital stays come with challenges that are out of our control, like depression, and anxiety, and panic disorders, and feelings of hopelessness. These are the things we don't normally see online but they need to be addressed. The stress that comes with transplant isn't something i was fully prepared for despite my teams warnings. After talking to members of my team and also a few new friends ive made in the online community im a part of ive realized that how im feeling is actually quite normal, especially after close to 3 months, and can be controlled. The decision to start on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds was a big one for me but im hoping that i can get back to the girl who looks at the road ahead and sees nothing but optimism and hope for her new life. Its only been a few days since ive started but im already feeling a difference in my overall mood and my motivation to go for walks and keep myself busy. I havent had as many times throughout the day where i felt consumed by my mood or thoughts and im getting back to relying on my own strength and will power. Over time i had started to rely on my support system more and more to fix my mood and bring me back up and it got to the point where they started taking on the stress i had and they also were getting overwhelmed and feeling the strain and i lost some people who were hugely important to me, and again felt like i couldn't do it ( i plan on doing a post later about the support system issues so ill touch on that later) but i wanted to shed some light on getting my self reliance back and on the common feelings that go with transplant but that you dont typically hear about. There seems to be a certain stigma in America that goes with psychological disorders that if you take a med to help balance you out your crazy or your somehow a lesser person or even thats its just a bad attitude but just like CF is a disease that i cant control, my depression and anxiety are going to be there and its not something i did wrong that caused it, im not just being negative, and in order to have a successful transplant i need my mind to be on the same page as my body, i need to be motivated and i need to be in the right state of mind. Feeling low and feeling alone are gonna happen no matter how many people message you every day and how many calls come in but im not weak, ya know how i know? i said i was done, i gave up, then i asked for help. You dont ask for help when your done. Bad days happen. They always will theres no preventing them but you can help yourself and let other people help you too. Thats not giving up, thats what fighting is, doing anything you possibly can to get through. Dont take the snapshots to heart. Feel what you feel, do what you need to do, and you can get through it but most importantly know that comparing yourself to someone else isnt realistic. You dont know what their battle really looks like!!!