This is a line that ive read over and over, ive read that no matter what happened there was not a single complaint, not a single moment where they didnt give up hope, and that through all the pain they smiled. Well guess what, im calling it. Im calling bullshit. Its easy to look at a facebook and see a snapshot of someones life and someones struggle and see the inspirational side of their fight and its a whole nother story to be the one fighting. For a while i felt like i wasn't as strong as everyone else and i felt like maybe i had given up and i just couldn't do it. I smiled for company and laughed with my nurses and when everyone left i cried, and i panicked, and i wished so hard that i could be the girl who stood strong and knew without a doubt that she was gonna kick ass and this would all be worth it. People like to be inspired, they like a story where the fighter comes out on top but its not always realistic. Prolonged hospital stays come with challenges that are out of our control, like depression, and anxiety, and panic disorders, and feelings of hopelessness. These are the things we don't normally see online but they need to be addressed. The stress that comes with transplant isn't something i was fully prepared for despite my teams warnings. After talking to members of my team and also a few new friends ive made in the online community im a part of ive realized that how im feeling is actually quite normal, especially after close to 3 months, and can be controlled. The decision to start on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds was a big one for me but im hoping that i can get back to the girl who looks at the road ahead and sees nothing but optimism and hope for her new life. Its only been a few days since ive started but im already feeling a difference in my overall mood and my motivation to go for walks and keep myself busy. I havent had as many times throughout the day where i felt consumed by my mood or thoughts and im getting back to relying on my own strength and will power. Over time i had started to rely on my support system more and more to fix my mood and bring me back up and it got to the point where they started taking on the stress i had and they also were getting overwhelmed and feeling the strain and i lost some people who were hugely important to me, and again felt like i couldn't do it ( i plan on doing a post later about the support system issues so ill touch on that later) but i wanted to shed some light on getting my self reliance back and on the common feelings that go with transplant but that you dont typically hear about. There seems to be a certain stigma in America that goes with psychological disorders that if you take a med to help balance you out your crazy or your somehow a lesser person or even thats its just a bad attitude but just like CF is a disease that i cant control, my depression and anxiety are going to be there and its not something i did wrong that caused it, im not just being negative, and in order to have a successful transplant i need my mind to be on the same page as my body, i need to be motivated and i need to be in the right state of mind. Feeling low and feeling alone are gonna happen no matter how many people message you every day and how many calls come in but im not weak, ya know how i know? i said i was done, i gave up, then i asked for help. You dont ask for help when your done. Bad days happen. They always will theres no preventing them but you can help yourself and let other people help you too. Thats not giving up, thats what fighting is, doing anything you possibly can to get through. Dont take the snapshots to heart. Feel what you feel, do what you need to do, and you can get through it but most importantly know that comparing yourself to someone else isnt realistic. You dont know what their battle really looks like!!!
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